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  2. Take Care of Your Tools
     … And don’t be afraid of getting attached to the concentration. As Ajaan Fuang used to say, you have to be crazy about the meditation in order to do it well: looking for every chance to get in touch with the breath, looking for every chance to get the mind to settle down. Whatever comes up in the course the concentration, there’s nothing … 
  3. Sober Up
     … That’s going to involve looking at all the things that you’re attached to and realizing that a lot of them you’re going to have to let go. And it’s going to require work. Some of the causes of suffering, the Buddha says, go away when you simply look at them. But there are a lot that require work. You have … 
  4. Events as Events
     … When it has that sense of well-being, it can look at its old attachments, the old ways it had of thinking and looking, and realize, “Okay, that way of doing things actually causes stress, and I don’t have to do it.” When you realize that it’s stressful and unnecessary, why would you hold on? You don’t even have to think … 
  5. Magha Puja: Showing Respect with the Practice
     … You may be able to stay away from them for a while, but you haven’t really cut your attachment to them. Eventually the mind will find its way back to them. So you’ve got to develop this sense of well-being inside. And you take refuge here. The idea of taking refuge in the Buddha, the Dhamma and the Sangha is not … 
  6. What Made the Buddha Exclaim
     … He sees people behaving in ways that are really harmful for themselves and for the people around them—and they’re so ignorant and so blind and so attached to what they’re doing. You have to remember his perspective. He’s coming from the night of his awakening, when he not only attained nibban but also saw how karma works in the world … 
  7. Just One Person
     … You figure out what you’re doing that’s skillful, what you’re doing that’s not skillful, and you sort things out with no sense of nostalgia, no sense of attachment, but with a clear sense that what you do matters. So you want to be careful about what you’re doing right now. That requires your full attention, all of your mental … 
  8. The Buddha’s Secret Weapon
     … He asked himself: “Is this the path? Maybe this is the path to the end of suffering.” And something in his mind said, “This could be it.” Then the question was, “Why am I afraid of that sense of well-being, the pleasure and rapture that come from that? Is there any blame attached to it?” No, none. So he gave that path a … 
  9. What Are You Doing?
     … Often we’re attached to things not because we think they’re permanent or have a substance but simply because we think that the pleasure we get out of them is worth the effort that goes into getting it. People get married realizing that the marriage is not going to last forever. There are all kinds of things that people hold onto in full … 
  10. Mindfulness of Breathing: Four in One
     … the mind has to have a sense of well-being and stability so that it doesn’t feel threatened by the things it doesn’t like, and it’s not so attached to things that it does like—but that are not quite as skillful as you may have thought. It’s easier to accept the things that are unpleasant about your own mind … 
  11. The Web of Pain
     … We usually think of insight simply as the ability to see things arising and passing away, which is supposed to do away with our attachment to them. Well, it’s important to see things arising and passing away, but then you have to realize that you’ve been sticking them together in a particular way through your perceptions. But that’s not enough. You … 
  12. Respecting Death
     … The second is that we’re going to have to abandon the body that we’re so attached to. The third is, if we’ve done anything cruel in life, there’s always a possibility that we’re going to have to suffer the consequences of that cruelty. And the fourth is being uncertain about the true Dhamma. This is the important one. If … 
  13. Older than the Cosmos
     … Even in just one lifetime, there are a lot of things you do, there are a lot of things that you’re attached to, and they just slip from your fingers. I know a lot of people have been commenting on how living in the pandemic, living in constrained circumstances, has gotten them thinking a lot about the past: the things they miss from … 
  14. Stop Weaving
     … If the action was skillful, you often get attached to the result. You want it to keep on going. Either way, you give rise to defilements in the mind, and that’s the third cycle. Then, under the power that defilement, you act again, and the cycle just keeps going around. Now, you can’t cut the cycle between the action and the result … 
  15. Hope
     … When you finally cut your attachments, the mind will head toward peace. That’s what you want, that’s what you hope for. It’s not an empty hope, because you’ve been working in that direction—inclining the mind toward peace, toward the direction you want. So don’t think that you’re stuck where you are or that you have to stay … 
  16. A Goal Without Limits
     … It’s just that because you have no attachments when you’re fully awakened you can’t be defined. When you can’t be defined, you can’t be described as existing or non-existing or both or neither or anything else. There are some people who advocate the idea that you’re basically nothing after gaining awakening and passing away, saying that when … 
  17. Obsessive Thinking
     … That’s where you use your discernment to peel away your attachments. You may not be able to uproot them entirely, but as long as you can step back from them and stop feeding them—because we do feed them with our attention: When there’s a sense that they’re not really interesting anymore, they don’t really serve a purpose, that’s … 
  18. True for What Purpose?
     … No matter how much you’ve been attached to it, no matter how large a role it has played in your life so far, you have to learn how to take it apart in line with the Buddha’s grammar, so that you can see which aspects of the lessons you’ve learned from your life are actually going to be helpful in the … 
  19. At Home in Jhana
     … These are all the raw materials you need to understand to see where your attachments are. As the Buddha said, the knowledge that puts an end to what they call mental fermentation or mental effluents—the things that darken the mind, that trouble the mind: The knowledge of putting an end to these things comes from being in one of these states of jhana … 
  20. Responsible for Your Actions
     … If you don’t believe that, then you don’t really care. “Why would I bother being responsible? Or responsible to the extent that I didn’t want to harm anybody at all?” Conviction is what gives you the strength to carry through with the persistence that’s needed to keep at this process of sorting through your thoughts, sorting through your attachments, and … 
  21. Mindful & Grateful for Lessons in Freedom
     … You’re free from your attachment. You’re able to rise above these things. You get a sense of your worth as a person and that there’s a higher level of happiness that comes when you don’t simply give in to your appetites. You see the benefits of sharing, and you realize you’re free to make that choice. Similarly with the … 
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