Search results for: "Hatred"

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  2. True, Beneficial, Timely
     … And then we can let them go—not out of hatred, not out of neurotic fear, but simply because they’ve taken us as far as we can go with them. They’ve delivered us to a good place. The Buddha says that when you let go of the raft on the other side, you still have some appreciation for it. You don’t … 
  3. Acceptance Isn’t the Issue
     … The Buddha saw that the cure for self-hatred is not just to try to develop a blanket self-acceptance. It’s to do good things and to believe in those good things, rejoice in those good things. That’s where your worth as a person lies. You hear so much about blanket acceptance these days, that everybody should be accepted without judgment. The … 
  4. The Right Attitude to the Body
     … What this means is that you’re not pushing the body away out of a neurotic fear or a neurotic hatred. You’re just realizing you had the wrong attitude to begin with. You change your attitude, and the body becomes a vehicle for awakening.
  5. The Rewards of Right View
     … This hatred goes back to the eighteenth century, when people began to learn about Buddhism and right way began denouncing karma and rebirth as morally abhorrent. That was because they didn’t understand them. They felt that karma and rebirth were teachings to justify the status quo. If you were suffering, it was because you deserved to suffer: That’s how they interpreted the … 
  6. Believe in Your Actions
     … At the same time, it’s easy not to believe that the quality of your intention is going to determine the results of your actions, because you see a lot of people acting out of greed, hatred, and delusion, and yet they seem to be pretty happy, in the short term at least. So it is a matter of belief. And the Buddha’s … 
  7. “May I Be Happy”
     … When the Buddha teaches how to deal with thoughts of hatred, he gives the analogy of a man going through the desert—hot, thirsty and tired. He comes across a little bit of water but, the problem is, the water is in a cow’s footprint; not much water at all. He knows that if he scoops his hand down to get the water … 
  8. Not-selfing Your Selves
     … It’s dropped, not out of hatred, simply out of a sense you’ve outgrown it. So that’s where we’re headed. It’s not a process of finding your true self and then denying it, or finding out that there was no self there to begin with. There are all these selves and some of them will require a certain amount of … 
  9. Educating Equanimity
     … It needs a foundation, so that when you’re letting go, it’s not out of neurotic fear or hatred or aversion. You’re letting go out of understanding. You’re letting go because you realize there is something better. You’ve been holding on to middling pleasures, minor pleasures, and in so doing you’ve been missing out on the greater pleasures that … 
  10. Loving Yourself Wisely
     … So when you find people who are suffering from self-hatred, it’s not so much that they don’t really love themselves. They love themselves, but there’s a conflict. They’re disappointed in themselves. And the Buddha’s right: If you just go looking for your immediate pleasures without any concern about the consequences, there’s very little to respect. And it … 
  11. Thoughts, Wanted and Unwanted
     … Go back to the breath? Or is there some other theme that you can think about that can pull you away from that thought? If you’re feeling thoughts of anger, remind yourself: “Anger and hatred don’t do you any good.” They’re attitudes that can be harmful to you and to other people. So think thoughts of goodwill instead. This doesn’t … 
  12. Not What You Are, What You Do
     … The hatred of pain, the love of pleasure, the ability to perceive an enemy, to perceive an escape from an enemy: These are really basic to the mind, much prior to any kind of social conditioning. Our social conditioning, our more refined uses of language, are actually needed to mitigate some of those lizard fears and knee-jerk judgments. So instead of throwing out … 
  13. Worldly Narratives
     … This way, when you’re letting go of your old attachments, it’s not out of aversion or hatred. It’s more out of a sense of growing up. You’ve got something better to do with your time. When you get more and more firmly established in the state of concentration, then you can use your perceptions and thought-constructs to start taking … 
  14. Always Willing to Learn
     … Do you want to please that bastard? Thinking in this way uses your pride and hatred to undercut your anger. When things have developed to a full-blown level like that, the subtle teachings aren’t going to help. You have to use crude wisdom—which means that even though it works, the results are going to be crude as well. So it’s … 
  15. Dealing with Pain
     … You feed on it through hatred, aversion, or whatever, but it’s still feeding. You remind yourself that you don’t want to gobble that down. You don’t have to gobble it down. It’s there, but it doesn’t have to be something that you lay claim to, and you know that it’s going to change. It’s not that it … 
  16. Being Right
     … The Buddha talks about when you feel hatred for someone, try to look for their good qualities. When you find those qualities, you focus on them. Like a monk who’s looking for robe material: He wants to make a robe from thrown-away scraps, and he’s found a piece of scrap cloth. Part of it is dirty and filthy, and can’t … 
  17. Meditation Prep
     … You either feel self-hatred or you start going into denial, pretending that it didn’t actually happen. Neither reaction helps develop any insight at all. If you engage in denial, you can’t see what you’re doing, can’t see whether the intention was actually skillful or not, and can’t see the results of the action. And you certainly can’t … 
  18. Thinking About Rebirth
     … Approach the teaching on not-self not out of neurotic hatred of yourself, but with a sense of empowerment. You really could, if you wanted to, shape things in a very good direction. And you can shape them in a good direction. So you want to use the things that come your way for that purpose. But can also use these teachings for developing … 
  19. A Good Buddhist Ego
     … At that point, as the Buddha said, you don’t let it go out of hatred. You don’t let it go out of disgust. You let it go with a sense of appreciation: “This raft has been very useful to me, but I don’t need it anymore.” So, you pull it up on the shore and you go on your way. You … 
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