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  2. Go Out of Your Way
     … Part of the reason, of course, is that we don’t want to be in your face with making people feel they have to give, or that we’re pleading with them to give, or begging for them to give. It’s funny: They talk about the word bhikkhu coming from a word meaning request, yet Ajaan Fuang would also say, “We’re not … 
  3. Practice Without Gaps
     … It’s basically, “I’ll observe it when I feel like it and not when I don’t.” In that case, the precept hasn’t been given the honor it deserves because, remember, the Buddha said we have to respect the triple training, and that means respecting the precepts. When we respect our likes and our dislikes more, there’s no training there, except … 
  4. The Tricks of Denial
     … And that’s when you use the Buddha’s analysis for how to deal with the perceptions, or the feelings or the other types of fabrication that do have a pull over the mind. You look for them arising. You look for them passing away. Sometimes we read about how discernment is simply knowledge of the arising and passing away of phenomena. That’s … 
  5. The Perception of Space
     … One night she was meditating, and a voice came to her as she was meditating and said, “You’re going to die tonight.” She so figured, “Well, if I’m going to die, I should die meditating.” So she sat there and she said that she had the feeling that her body was like a house on fire. She tried to focus here, and … 
  6. Exploring Contentment
     … your intention, whether conscious or subconscious, in how you want the body to feel in the present moment, which is going to shape the rate at which you breathe, the depth, the speed, the length of the breath. There’s an element of fabrication that goes into this that you really want to get to know. And the best way to get to know … 
  7. Four Determinations
     … But often the mind feels at loose ends if it’s not talking to itself. So, you have to learn how to be with the state of mind where there’s just a perception holding you in place. That’s an example of what you can look for. As for calm helping with your discernment, the more still the mind is, the subtler things … 
  8. Bedside Dhamma
     … When they’ve been thinking about the unskillful things they’ve done, and then something really miserable opens up, and they feel, “Oh, here’s my punishment coming to get me,” they just go into it, where they don’t have to. The types of karma where you have to go to hell, say, after this lifetime are very few. But if the mind … 
  9. The Wisdom of Ardency
     … Ardency is defined in the texts as the feeling you have when you realize that there are unskillful mental states in your mind and they’re dangerous; that if you don’t get rid of them there’s going to be danger. If you don’t give rise to skillful states, there’s going to be danger. This quality is very closely related to … 
  10. Social Anxiety
     … In the beginning you may feel unprotected. Don’t listen to those voices. Those are voices that took over your mind when you were a little child and didn’t know anything. That was the best you could do at that time, but now you’ve got more skills, better skills, more understanding. Learn how to reason with those voices: “Here’s a good … 
  11. Cooking with Kamma
     … You’ve got body, filled with a feeling pleasure and filled with awareness. These are all things that we have already. You just learn how to make use of them and turn them into your concentration food: the sense of rapture, the sense of well-being that comes when the mind gets settled down like this. The Buddha describes this in his analogy of … 
  12. Planting a Tree
     … The Buddha said that when you start feeling discouraged, remind yourself that you started this practice because you love yourself. You want to put an end to suffering. Have you stopped wanting to put an end to suffering? Well, no. It’s just that the progress is coming more slowly than you might have wanted or anticipated. But you can’t let that become … 
  13. A Culture of Restraint
     … knowing how much you can rein the mind in, when you have to give it a little extra leash, so it doesn’t feel too confined, too cooped up, but at the same time knowing how much is too much — this is something you have to learn over time. So think about the environment you’re creating in your mind, the environment that allows … 
  14. A Radiant Practice
     … Simple things like cleaning up the place, little acts of kindness, anything that makes you feel good that you’ve gone out of your way to do something good: That’s merit. It’s the same with virtue. There are areas where you could have said or done something that was not quite honorable, but you said No to that temptation. You decided you … 
  15. Resilience Plus
     … And make sure you don’t feel oppressed by what they’ve done or what they’ve said. Think of your mind as being as large as the earth, as inflammable as the river Ganges. Now, if we were to stop right there, that would be simply a lesson in non-reactivity. But the Buddha doesn’t stop there. He says you’ve got … 
  16. Two Kinds of Seclusion
     … Once you’re able to locate the most obvious sensations of the breath and stay with them for a while, start exploring how the process of breathing feels in other parts of the body. Sometimes you find certain parts are missing, such as a shoulder or parts of your back, parts of your torso. Suppose your shoulder seems to be missing. If you can … 
  17. Doubt vs. Questioning
     … You get a feel for them over time in a nonverbal way, by trying this, trying that, seeing what works, seeing what doesn’t work. As for what seems to work right now, well, try it again tomorrow and see if it works tomorrow, because maybe the mind will have changed in the meantime. You’ve made a discovery, but maybe not a major … 
  18. Whatever It Takes
     … It’s a common trait among all of us that we like to do the things we’re comfortable doing, the things we feel skilled at doing, the things that come fluently, but when something is awkward, we don’t like to do it, whether it’s a matter of wounded pride, or whatever. Yet if you want to be really good at the … 
  19. Using Right View Rightly
     … This is for times when it’s hard to feel goodwill for the enemy, so you overcome your anger with spite. You’re using something unskillful in a wise and discerning way. So the discernment lies in the uses. With right view, it’s a question of how to use your trifocal mind: which lens for which purpose. When you develop that skill, that … 
  20. Beginning the Rains
     … If they’re helping other people simply to feel appreciated, that’s the wrong attitude. You want to be consistent in your help. You want to be reliable. When we can rely on one another, it makes life a lot easier and a lot more pleasant to be around one another. Consistency also has another meaning—that your treatment of others is consistent with … 
  21. The Community of the Wise
     … They said to themselves, “This is a community you belong to, depending not on where you are, but on your attitudes, what you respect in life.” And it was their experience that often you might really not feel that you’re that much of a citizen of your locality or the place right around you, but you’re very much a citizen of the … 
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